“I don’t need a ring to prove that you’re worthy,” Sara Quin sings on Tegan and Sara‘s hooky synth-pop anthem “BWU.” The track’s video, directed by Clea DuVall, takes the lyric literally, as Quin proposes marriage to several women with an empty ring box. After earning numerous rejections, she finds love by the clip’s conclusion.
“I was happy when the Supreme Court ruling legalized same sex marriage in the U.S.A.,” Sara Quin told Entertainment Weekly, reflecting on the track’s lyrical themes. “But I was also relieved that I could finally ‘come out’ as a person who actively dislikes the institution – specifically the assumption that by not participating in the ritual you are a deviant or unlikely to share the same common values as someone who does.”
“BWU” is the duo’s fourth single from their eighth LP, Love You to Death, following “U-Turn,” “100x” and “Boyfriend.” Quin recently spoke to Rolling Stone about the album, calling “BWU” an “anti-wedding song.”
“‘Be With You’ is interesting because Tegan and I were such big advocates of the same-sex marriage movement in the United States and in Canada,” she said. “But the twist is that I, personally, don’t want to be married. I don’t have any interest in that sort of social hierarchy, where if you’re not married then your relationship is not as significant as people who are. I hate all of that. Now that I’ve fought for the right, and we’ve had success with the Supreme Court, I feel like it’s important for me to be honest, too. There’s strength in saying, “I don’t need a piece of paper or a ring or a wedding or photos to show how significant my commitment to a relationship is.”