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Songs for Going Solo

Author Eric Klinenberg compiles the perfect playlist for people who don’t need a Valentine to be perfectly happy

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There have been a lot of big cultural changes since the Sixties, and no one has covered them like Rolling Stone. But some changes escape the eyes of even the most perceptive observers. We recognize them only in retrospect, and once we do we suddenly realize that artists – especially musicians – were not merely seeing the revolution, but expressing them from the very start. Often, we were even singing along!

My new book, Going Solo, tells the story of the biggest modern social change that we've yet to identify: the extraordinary rise of living alone.

Until the middle of the 20th century, no society in human history had sustained large numbers of singletons. In 1950, for instance, only 4 million Americans lived alone, and they accounted for less than 10 percent of all households. Today, more than 32 million Americans are going solo. They represent 28 percent of all households at the national level; more than 40 percent in cities including San Francisco, Seattle, Atlanta, Denver, and Minneapolis; and nearly 50 percent in Washington D.C. and Manhattan, the twin capitals of the solo nation.

The numbers are even higher in Europe and Japan. And they're growing fastest in places with rapidly developing economies, from China and India to Brazil.

For this Valentine's Day, I put together a playlist of fifteen songs for going solo, and an extended set of many others that you can listen to on Spotify. Got your own favorites? Share them! After all, no one can get it all right on their own.

by Eric Klinenberg
With contributions from Jennifer Lena, Dan Ozzi, and Ed "DJ Jah Karma" Russ

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The Vapors, ‘Turning Japanese’

Speaking of visceral: The Vapors recorded this ode to self-love in 1980. "Turning Japanese" is a veiled reference to what happens to your face when you're masturbating. Who can forget the refrain: "I've got your picture, I've got your picture, I'd like a million of you all round my cell/ I want the doctor, to take your picture/ So I can look at you from inside as well."

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Jay-Z, ’99 Problems’

After Blue Ivy was born, Jay-Z is settling into fatherhood. But before his Beyoncé days, Jigga made one thing absolutely clear: He had a ton of things to deal with – getting pulled over, music critics slamming him, and radio stations not playing his songs. Girlfriends? Not among them.

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Tom Waits, ‘Better Off Without a Wife’

Tom Waits has been married for 32 years now, but on the great 1975 album Nighthawks at the Diner, he toasted "to the bachelors and the Bowery Bums/ And those who feel that they're the only ones/ Who are better off without a wife." It's a great testament to the urban underworld, and to Tom's wild years.

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Bob Marley, ‘No Woman, No Cry’

Plenty of musicians have assured us that everything's gonna be all right. Leave it to the one with the Jamaican attitude to really make us believe it. Marley applies his home country's "no worries" philosophy to being alone, and the result is one of the best feel-good songs ever.

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Wilco, ‘Born Alone’

Jeff Tweedy may be a married father, but he's one of the great iconoclasts and individualists of our time, always doing his own thing his own way. In "Born Alone," Tweedy pulled random words from Emily Dickinson's poetry and set them alongside writing from Whittier and other poets from the 1800s. He's said that the final lyric, "born alone, born to die alone" is dire, defiant and triumphant, and that the song ends with a series of repeating chords that ascend and descend to make the sound "like it's endlessly going deeper and deeper into the abyss." Solo or not, we've all been there.

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Patti LaBelle and Michael McDonald, ‘On My Own’

The Number One hit from LaBelle's 1986 platinum album, Winner in You, this is a song about being alone, together. In the video, LaBelle and McDonald appear on separate coasts, in a split screen, and testify to the sweet sorrow of being solo after love ends. "I've got to find out what was mine again/ My heart is saying that it's my time again/ And I have faith that I will shine again/ I have faith in me/ On my own."

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Morrissey, ‘I’m OK By Myself’

Where would a list about being alone be without Morrissey? "I'm OK By Myself" is much less on the sad-sack end of Morrissey's discography, far more proudly independent. He wants the person who left him to know this: He doesn't need you. And he hopes that fact makes you throw up in your bed.

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Jamie O’Neal, ‘All By Myself’

Possibly the most famous song to listen to while staring out a rainy window with a single teardrop on your cheek. Many musicians have tried, but none of captured the true pain of isolation like O'Neal.

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Jimi Hendrix, ‘Stone Free’

In the tradition of wandering bluesmen and free spirits everywhere, Hendrix celebrates his independence, warning women against even trying to tie him down. "Listen to me baby, you can't hold me down… Stone free, to do what I please/ Stone free to ride the breeze/ Stone free, I can't stay/ I got to got to got to get away." Has anyone else so perfectly captured the sentiment of men who won't commit?

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Jason DeRulo, ‘Ridin’ Solo’

A companion piece to Beyoncé's "All the Single Ladies," DeRulo says he's sorry things didn't work out, but he's ready to move on because the pain is gone. "Better days are gonna get better," he sings. "I'm feelin' like a star, you can't stop my shine/ I'm lovin' cloud nine, my head's in the sky/ I'm solo, I'm ridin' solo."

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