An Officer and a Gentleman
Women think of this movie as a swoony, old-fashioned romance. And it is. But it's really a movie about how to be a man. It's not just having steamy sex with townie Debra Winger that makes Navy cadet Richard Gere into a man; rather, it's being browbeaten (and physically beaten) by drill instructor Louis Gossett, Jr. that gives him character. As Gere discovers, being a man means taking responsibility for your own life, and the lives of those closest to you. When Gere finally sweeps Winger off her feet in the movie's famous final scene, it's not because he's learned to love her, but because he's learned how to be worthy of her.