'Ordinary People' (1980)
The Citizen Kane of uptight, emotionally remote WASPs movies, Robert Redford's directorial debut drops viewers into a serious chill zone, a.k.a. the Jarrett household. Dad is socially awkward, confused by these things people call "feelings"; Mom spends all her time keeping up the facade of the perfect household (spoiler: it is not); and their son recently tried to take his own life. All of them are dealing with a huge loss, or remain in extreme denial about the cause of their grief, in their own individual way. By the end of the film, you will turn to your own family and apologize for causing a scene during Thanksgiving dinner, because hey, at least they tell you that they love you. Unless, of course, you live with uptight, emotionally remote WASPS, in which case you'll all just stare straight ahead and pretend everything is super-peachy.